I have a soft spot for ginkgo trees. They are planted throughout the downtown area of my home town and are often at the height of their autumn color just when all other trees are fading fast. And they remind me of my dad. He also loved ginkgoes and planted several in our yard when I was growing up. He told me that ginkgoes were thought to be extinct, a tree known only from leaves left behind in the fossil record. Then one day a Jesuit priest in central China discovered that some of them were still alive. "Imagine if you saw a dinosaur! That's almost how it was." All the ginkgo trees in America are descended from ginkgoes taken from that area of China.
My dad was a scientist -- an invertebrate paleontologist to be exact, comparing the fossilized tracks, traces, and burrows of small creatures from the ancient seas with ones from modern oceans. But he loved all nature and often took us on walks in the woods. Sometimes he would stop for a moment, his eyes falling on something that pleased him but that didn't register as remarkable to me. A moment or two would pass by and then he would explain that this wild bush had a remarkable number of berries or that a particular tree was unusual in this area or simply had a very pleasing shape. He was a great tour guide to nature and it is one of the many, many things I miss about him. From him I learned how to plant a tree, where to find blackberries, and the names of the common seashells on the Georgia coast.
I'm so thankful I had my father through my twenty-first year, but I can't help but wonder how much more I would have learned if I'd had him longer in my life as an adult. When cancer finally got him, it was just when I was learning that his quiet demeanor meant he was observing and considering not just trees or clouds but also people, politics, and the world at large. I know a lot of folks who spout off about this or that. Dad wasn't much of a spouter. But if you asked his opinion, he'd thoughtfully pin together what he'd read and observed in a way that was often startlingly well-formed and nonjudgemental. There's so much I now wish I could ask and discuss. Yet even if I only had him a relatively short time, I'm so thankful he was my father.
Dad and Me
(I'm 9 months old.)
Dad, Autumn 1991
When I took the photo above, my father already knew his cancer was terminal and moving fast. He died peacefully three months later and the world quietly lost a man of great gentleness and integrity who was wide awake to life.